Understanding What Causes Stress
The first stage in preventing
and lowering your own levels of stress is recognizing what stress
is and what the major causes of stress are.
How is Stress Affecting YOU?
How stressed out are YOU?
Let's take a look into what may
be causing your stress levels to
be where they currently are.
Develop a Stress-Relief
Here are some tips for staying
healthy throughout the year on campus and more.
YOUR Stress Relief PLAN : Managing Daily Habits
Knowing how to manage stress
on a day-to-day basis can be just
as tough as dealing with the
stress itself. Here is a guide to
help you along the way.
Stress Relief Products
In addition to a regular stress management program, there
are many tools available to
assist you on your path to a
Surviving a Sad, Sad Season
is the season to be jolly" for everyone but you. Day after day, you see, hear and smell stinging reminders that you'll be going through the holidays without a special loved one. All the celebrating is turning once memorable events into something that's hard to face, and you may not even be sure you want to.
Going on can be so lonely when a loved one has died. Of course, living through the holidays will be difficult, but you can take steps to ease the pain.
Try starting some new traditions. Things will never be the way they were before your loved one died. Maybe continuing all your traditions will only evoke deep feelings of your loss. Perhaps you can ring a Salvation Army bell, visit an old friend or close relative, or travel with friends instead.
Plan ahead to help avoid uncomfortable situations. Maybe you fear social situations because of questions that you'd rather not face yet, for example. Diffuse some of the impact of such situations by avoiding them or by being ready with a gracious reply that cuts painful conversations short. You could say "Thanks for asking, but it's still difficult for me to discuss it," for example. Keep in mind that people who ask questions are showing their concern.
Don't try to please everyone. Be picky about what you involve yourself in. Your friends and family are well-intentioned, but all their suggestions won't be appropriate for you. On the other hand, don't be too hesitant to try something before making a judgment about it. You may literally have to force yourself to get out.
Don't expect too much of yourself. Your ability to cope will vary with different situations. Avoid ones you feel you can't handle.
Ask for help. Maybe you need assistance with holiday preparations, or maybe you need help coping. Be assertive about letting friends, co-workers and religious advisors know you're struggling. Or contact a mental health professional.
Be patient and as kind as you can. Some people may be so stressful to be around that you just need to avoid them. Remember that others are grieving just as you are. Children, especially, may need extra doses of patience and kindness.
Seek out someone who's had a similar loss. No one can offer comfort quite as well as someone who's been through the same thing.
Do something meaningful to keep the memory of your loved one alive. Maybe a family dinner in his or her memory or a donation to your loved one's favorite charity would be meaningful.